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Anger is the most difficult and challenging feeling. Anger can propel us to pursue change, or energize us in the pursuit of change. However, too often our anger is allowed to run amuck, thus creating havoc in our lives vis-à-vis the unresolved angry feelings.

Everyone has anger about issues and experiences, some more than others, occasionally, or for some frequently. When anger is left unprocessed with no outlet it morphs into resentment. Resentment carries with it the propensity of creating self-sabotage and great turmoil. When you are in resentment you assign blame for the pain you are feeling—thus easing the pain—albeit superficial and temporary. Some people relentlessly stoke the smoldering embers of resentment just below the surface of their awareness, eroding their peace of mind and causing rifts in relationships.

The target of your resentment grows ever more diabolical in your mind and you rue the day you first encountered the experience, which you perceive to be to blame. Resentment is nothing more than another hue on the emotional spectrum and therefore within the realm of our conscious control. You can choose to let go of your resentment and enjoy your experiences going forward, no matter how painful the event that instigated it.

Holding onto anger/resentment serves only to have more pain. Successfully processing the experience to let go of the anger/resentment can be difficult. Processing the anger compels us to mentally and emotionally confront the original source of anger. When we cease assigning blame, we realize that our need to hold someone or something responsible for our feelings has harmed us.

We think that assigning blame we are resolving it, but in fact we are holding onto the hurt with a fierce self-sabotaging grip. To release resentment, we need to shift our attention from those we resent back toward ourselves by thinking of our needs.

Some people find performing a ceremony helps quell resentful feelings by giving tangible form to their emotions. You may want to write down your feelings and then burn the paper and close your ceremony by wishing those who harmed you well—allowing yourself to forgive. See Forgiveness—A Misunderstood Concept.
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When you can find compassion in your heart, you are on your way to healing. Resentment free, you have more energy and attention to devote to your life and work. You can fill the spaces the anger/resentment occupied with unconditional acceptance and joy. As a result of your freedom from resentment, blessings can enter your life.

It is usually fairly easy to access a past event, for some, it is quite difficult to allow oneself to feel and express the various emotions which were originally felt and suppressed because to feel the feelings without adequate process is too painful. Unfortunately, processing events with loaded emotions is seldom done adequately. And yet, even now, unless this is done, healing will only become a partial achievement without a complete resolution of the issues involved—with continued negative impact consciously and unconsciously.

With the benefit of hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) these five aspects of Ego programming can be eliminated. Once the Ego program is eliminated at the core, you can keep your ego balanced in all five aspects by keeping your energy and focus on; who you truly are.

Hypnosis is a dynamic and vital healing process embracing all aspects health care. Hypnosis is client-centered with its focus on the discovery of the origin of a person’s issues. Through the process of hypnosis/regression the unconscious mind goes to the original cause, which then gives the person and practitioner the opportunity to process the original feelings surrounding the original experience/cause. These surrounding feelings can be healed, thus empowering the person to live the life they want to live.

This study confirms—Hypnosis is more effective and works more quickly than traditional talk-therapy or psychoanalysis. In a hypnotic state, you are more receptive to new ideas and you can more effectively process the emotions linked to the experiences, which created pain, fear, sadness, anger, guilt, shame, humiliation and low self-esteem.

Through Hypnosis you connect with your subconscious mind, which puts YOU in control of your subconscious mind—the most powerful and empowering aspect of your brain.

American Health Magazine reported these findings from a comparison study.

• Psychoanalysis: Creates a 38% recovery after 600 sessions

• Behavior Therapy: Creates a 72% recovery after 22 sessions

• Hypnosis: Creates a 93% recovery after 6 sessions

NLP uses a set of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human communication, perception and subjective experience. The core principle is that an individual's thoughts, gestures and words interact to create your perception of the world. By changing your outlook, using a variety of techniques, a person can improve their attitudes and behavior.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings.

http://www.drdorothy.net

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