Blog for Self Improvement

Self confidence is a mental and emotional state of mind that responds to an individual's need for self-acceptance and peer recognition. It is among the oldest and most studied concepts in psychology. It is used to describe a positive but nonetheless adequate perception of oneself and one's abilities. As such, people with self confidence usually have a better idea of the things they are able to do and are more apt to be successful in their projects. They are able to more readily admit and learn from their failures.

On the contrary, a lack of confidence might prevent you from believing what you do and decide will finally work out the way you had intended. It can hence hamper the improvement of decision-making aptitudes, planning and managerial abilities all of which are essential and mandatory skills in the business world of today. The pre-occupation with other people's opinions of your work may also cause you to become excessively self-critical, which will distract you from things you would have otherwise been fully capable of performing.

Low self confidence will also affect your social life, as people with low self confidence tend to stay in their "comfort zone" and are afraid of being rejected. This is called social phobia and is usually associated with low self confidence, as well as other mental afflictions such as depression. People with low self confidence are scared of being judged by their peers and will avoid talking to new people, which can subsequently lead to isolation and even lower self confidence. Low self confidence is a vicious circle that's difficult to break.

On the other hand, because they are able to trust their abilities, people with self confidence are able to do what they feel is appropriate and do not expect the approval of others. They also trigger confidence: your boss, employees, customers, friends or relatives will be more likely to believe in you or in the things you are telling them if you appear self-confident.

Different experiences can lead to low self confidence. New research indicates that parenting style has a major impact on the development of a child's self confidence. Corporal and psychological abuses during childhood are for instance the worse for a person's self confidence, as well as family conflicts or divorce. Overprotective parents may also be a reason for a child's social phobia and inhibit the independence that is necessary to develop self confidence. Failures and successes, for instance at school or in one's professional life, also play a significant role: losing a job or failing a class are some of the several experiences that will negatively affect your self confidence.

There are nonetheless ways to overcome those bad experiences and improve self confidence. The first thing to do in order to build self confidence would be to learn to know who you are and what your strengths are. Recognizing that you cannot be perfect and cannot be the best in everything you do will help you gain self confidence. Accepting who you are is the key to building self confidence. But improving self confidence also requires that you start taking risks and giving yourself credit for your achievements. This is very simple advice that will help you improve self confidence. You may also find plenty of books that will claim they can help you improve self confidence, however not all of them are reliable.

A lot people suffer from low self confidence or are only able to gain self confidence in one or a few areas of their lives because they constantly look for other people's approval and are afraid of failing. Many factors, including childhood traumas, can explain why certain people cannot have the wholesome life a self confident person could have. These persons also don't always know how to gain self confidence. However improving self confidence can now readily and effectively be achieved thanks to hypnosis and NLP.

As we have seen before low self confidence and social phobia can stem from traumas or unconscious fears that may be difficult to overcome through self persuasion only. Confidence hypnosis and NLP on the other hand are able to get to the unconscious part of our mind and modify belief systems to boost self confidence. They are effective tools that will help you address your fears and trust yourself to develop self confidence.

Confidence hypnosis has been used for several decades and has shown significant results in building self confidence. Once in a hypnotic state, accessing unconscious thoughts is a lot easier and, through hypnotic suggestion, you will be able to replace your negative thought patterns with positive ones to boost self-confidence.

By: Alan B. Densky, CH

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Alan B. Densky, CH is an NGH certified hypnotherapist. He offers effective hypnosis CD's for social phobias and self confidence. His self hypnosis for self confidence CD's were independently reviewed in the UK. Visit his Neuro-VISION self hypnosis site and watch free hypnosis videos.