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It's impossible to ignore any longer. Your hair is beginning its transition to "sophisticated silver." Your face is taking on the look of a "wise" woman. And your kids, friends, parents, neighbors - and mysteriously, your husband - all seem to be "changing" before your very eyes, (the ones with the latest contact lenses). No need to mention the daily battle with the bathroom scales; that goes without saying.

So what to do? Assume a devil-may-care demeanor? Tell everyone you've earned your face and you're damn proud of every crease? Change your name to J-Lo? Or start a "New You" campaign and begin an extreme makeover with the ultimate goal a younger, richer husband in a different part of the country.

But wait! Before you do anything, listen carefully to what your best and closest advisor has to say. "Who's that?" you ask. "Your intuition," we respond.

That's right, your intuition. You know it's there. You've known it since you were a little girl, but somehow, that wonderfully accurate guidance system has grown rusty through the years - or has it been your ability to "hear" what it's been trying to tell you? Let's revisit your inner guide, re-learn how to interpret its messages, and get back on the road to a healthy, positive, confident You.

Trust your inner wisdom — People who believe in trusting their intuition tend to be more successful in life. Intuition is often referred to as a "hunch" or a "gut feeling." But there are many ways to receive this vital information, which may come to you through feelings, words, physical sensations, images, fleeting impressions, or dreams. Pay attention to how you receive these impressions and check in often with your inner "Success Coach."

Ask you intuition questions — When you're in the midst of a difficult life situation begin the habit of asking questions of your intuition. "What is it that I am here to learn?" "What is the best possible outcome for this situation?" The answer may not always leap into your mind. It takes time to retrain your thinking to "hear" the subtle messages from your guidance system. You may find that the answer comes in an impulse to try something different, or a gradual awakening to a new way of thinking about an obstacle you're confronting. Keep in mind that your intuition can help guide you to peace in any situation.

Dream, Reflect and Meditate — Intuitive answers to life's concerns come most easily during meditation, prayer and reflection. All you need is a few moments to still your mind. Find a place at your home or the office where you won't be disturbed and take a few deep breaths and turn your focus within. You might find it helpful to have a centering word or words that you say to yourself. These could include, "God," "Calm," "Peace be still" or any other word or phrase that enables you to find the quiet place within. Know that there is wisdom in the Universe that flows through you and all around you. It has your best interests at heart. When your mind is still and your heart is open, the answers you seek can come to you.

Discover what you love to do — Each of us has chosen to come into this life with a mission that will bring us joy and enthusiasm. The root of the word enthusiasm is entheos. It literally means "God Within." When you feel enthusiastic about your dreams it means God is speaking through you and saying "yes" to your goals! The feeling of enthusiasm is one of the ways intuition speaks to us. Successful people pay attention to what they feel passionate about. They commit to spending time each day doing what they love. For some it's a job that pays. For others it may be volunteer work or a hobby. When you feel excited about something, that's a hint about what to pursue.

Don't be afraid of fear - Fear is the biggest hurdle that stops most people from achieving their dreams. It happens when you move out of the comfort zone of the life you've known and into a life on the borders of your dreams. Many of us feel the fear and say, "I'm not going one step further." Or "Give me a guarantee of success and then I'll move forward." Or even, "I feel scared. This must be my intuition telling me that this direction is wrong." As you take action on your dreams you may feel as if you're on the edge of a cliff. You're about to take a leap of faith and no one is there to catch you. But you're not alone. The inspiration and direction from your intuition is there to guide you safely to your hopes and dreams.

Choose to be happy —Part of learning to trust your intuition is remembering to ask, "Does this decision make me happy?" or "Do I feel energized by this decision?" There are many ways to ask the question and experience the answer, but here's the truth: your intuition will provide you with the information you need to make positive choices. Research has shown that happiness is a choice. It is not necessarily dependent on life circumstances. There is always a positive and a negative aspect to any change that occurs in our lives, and isn't it wonderful that we get to choose our focus?

A long time ago, I got in the habit of asking, "What's good about this situation?" I promise you that if you do the same, you'll be surprised at the happiness that brightens your world. Have fun with all of this. And have a great life!

Lynn A. Robinson is a bestselling author, speaker and leading expert on the topic of intuition. She's a sought-after consultant who uses her own highly-honed intuitive skills to provide businesses with accurate, on-the-spot insights into goals, decisions and strategies. Her latest book is TRUST YOUR GUT: How the Power of Intuition Can Grow Your Business. 800-925-4002 or Lynn@LynnRobinson.com http://www.LynnRobinson.com

1. Give something away – How does it feel to give something away that cost you a great deal. It feels good, doesn’t it? That is when you are giving from a cheerful heart. Purpose in your heart to give something valuable away each day. It can be, your time to help somebody, it can be money to help somebody or charity or it can be a word of encouragement to a stranger. This will contribute to your quest for living a happier life.

2. Do a kindness – Have you wander how little kindness put smiles on people faces. Like holding the door for someone, letting ladies first, greeting someone because you want to than just a fake grin on your face, picking up somebody’s item that he or she dropped and running after them to give it to them. No matter what be kind anyway. You will feel good and you will be on your way to living a happier life.

3. Give thanks always – The Bible says we should give thanks to God in everything. I know sometimes it is very difficult to do that, but you just try it. Especially in very difficult circumstances. You will feel better. When you are able to do that, you give God the authority to take control and work his will. Whatever the situation is, do your best to give thanks.

4. Work with vim, vigor and have a great attitude – Every morning, if you are able to wake up for another day, you should purpose in your heart to work with vim, vigor and have a great attitude. Whatever you do each day follow this basic principle and you will be amazed how you will enjoy working. You are going to work anyway so why don’t you do it to enjoy.

5. Visit the elderly and learn from their experience – I once heard it from one of my mentor’s John Crowe of BWW that experience is the best teacher especially if it is not your own. The elderly folks are there for our benefit and they will love our company. Purpose in your heart to spend time with them. Chat and learn from their experience. After all it is free and they are looking for people to share with.

6. Look intently into the face of a baby and marvel – Have you ever looked into a baby’s eye? If you have not, try it. It will amaze you. That is when you will marvel at the creation power of God. To imagine that you were once like that will blow your mind out.

7. Laugh often—it is life’s lubricant – They say it takes more energy and muscles to frown than to smile so I decided I am going to smile more. Try this, anytime you see somebody who looks serious, give them a genuine smile and see how your smile will melt away their seriousness and put a smile back on their face. It is amazing how this work.

8. Pray to know God’s way –The best way to know God’s way is through His word, the Bible. The Bible says commit your ways to the Lord and He will direct you path. There is nothing as sad as person who has come to the end of his life and wander why God put me on earth. We are all here for a purpose. Pray to God for His direction. Seek Him for his ways and purpose for your life. It is never too late. If you don’t know why you are here, then I entreat you to sincerely pray to him for His way.

9. Plan as though you will live forever—you will – Great people who have impacted humanity lived by this principle. That is why we still remember them. They lived not for themselves but for others. They served and served to the best of their ability. They lived to accomplish their goals and dreams. None of us was born to a life of mediocrity; we are all born for a life of greatness. Those who accomplish great things did what others will not do. They find the purpose for their life and live it to the best of their ability. You too can live forever through your works if you will pursue your goals and dreams with all you got.

10. Live as though today is your last day on – Time will not wait for you so live each day with a purpose and urgency. Have goals and items to accomplish each day. Have a game plan for the day. Live the day and don’t let the day leave you. If you will work daily on your goals and dreams, at the end of life you will know what the Good Lord put you here for. Living a happier life is daily task. It is a choice we make daily.

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After years of research on happiness, money, life and goals, here are some of my key findings.

Researchers from the University of Illinois and Pennsylvania State declare that, in a 1985 survey, the Maasai of East Africa were almost equally satisfied with life as some of the 400 richest Americans on the Forbes list. The Maasai are a traditional herding people who have no electricity or running water and live in huts made of dung.

Goal. Realize that making huge amounts of money doesn't necessarily buy happiness. Maybe it's time to stop competing with the neighbours for the flashiest car. Money, power, fame or status should not be treated as the goal, rather as resources towards more meaning and purpose. Perhaps the goal will be more freedom, control and health in your life.

People who are truly successful look at their values and live a rich and rewarding life created through healthy relationships, personal integrity, and discovery. They are not concerned with impressing others with wealth and status.

Goal: Spending more time with family, friends and the community can be an inexpensive yet incredibly rewarding experience as opposed to watching TV or shopping. Being honest with yourself and open to new adventures certainly adds spice to life as well.

People happiest in their jobs are the ones that remain truly engaged, learn something new everyday, and have a connection with different groups and networks.

Goal: Start learning new things. Discover your passions and build on them. Seek information. This is what leads to true meaning and purpose in ones career.

Summary. Being clear on your life goals leads to a much more satisfying life.

1) After basic needs are met, money doesn't buy much more happiness.

2) Our relationships with others provide some of our greatest values and inspirations.

3) Connecting with your work and continuously seeking value adding information makes life much more satisfying.

About the Author: Terry Vermeylen is one of those rare people that is passionately driven to help others unlock their own barriers toward fulfillment, meaning and purpose. He is the founder of

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One of my favorite expressions is that "you reap what you sow". While I often hear it used negatively by someone who expects some "chickens to come home to roost" I prefer to think of it as something positive. How comforting to think that all our hard work and toil will be rewarded with a crop of something good? How wonderful to think that putting love and care into some project or person will indeed be rewarded.

Of course, while most Americans give lip service to the notion of our right to pursue happiness, all too many people do not really believe it applies to them. Many people simply believe they don't deserve happiness. And even those few who do believe it seem to accept unhappiness as simple bad luck.

Every person does indeed deserve happiness and what is more happiness is contagious. The more happy people there are around then even more people will find happiness. We owe it ourselves to work on our own happiness and we owe it to society as well. Our own happiness will help others and inspire others to find happiness. If we are unhappy then we are likely making others unhappy as well (even if unintentionally) and it is extremely unlikely we are doing much to contribute to the happiness of others.

So how do you become a happy person? You simply reap your own happiness. But how? Take these four simple steps:

Step one -- Ready Yourself For Happiness

You can accomplish this step by first determining that you want to be happy. Part of being happy is wanting to be happy. Once you have committed yourself to the course of finding happiness for yourself then you must rid yourself of the notion that happiness is luck or based on possessions or persons. No thing and no one can make you happy. Happiness comes from within yourself.

Step two -- Envision Yourself As Happy

Every day when you first wake up and at various points during the day spend some time envisioning yourself as a happy person. Picture yourself laughing, smiling, relaxing. Imagine yourself as happy. The more you can fix this image of yourself as happy in your mind then the easier it will be for you to truly become happy.

Step three -- Assume You Will Be Happy

Many people tend to assume that they will spend much of their lives either unhappy or at least not really happy. However we have all seen those people who do seem to be genuinely happy with their lives. They smile frequently, laugh often, and seem to be in good humor most of the time. Yet this is not because they are richer or more successful. Sometimes these people were just born with the good fortune to have an optimistic outlook that life has not yet knocked out of them, but often these people have simply chosen that they will be happy and they recognize that there is always something about their lives that makes them happy. You know this is true of yourself as well. Concentrate on the areas of your life that give you happiness whenever you feel unhappiness seeping in and no matter what assume that you will be, you can be, a happy person.

Step four -- Pursue Your Happiness

Happiness is rarely a wonderful accident of fate. Happiness is rarely found by accident. While you may find happiness in unexpected places you must first open yourself to the possibility of happiness and prepare yourself to accept it when you find it. Some people are so miserable that they step right around happiness when they encounter. Don't let this happen to you. What is more, don't simply sit at home waiting for happiness to come knocking on your door. Go out and live life. Think about what currently makes you happy and spend time in those activities and think about what might make you happy and spend time experimenting. The more time you spend actively living your life then the more likely that you will also lead a happy life.

Remember, you deserve a happy life and you can lead a happy life, but in the end you reap what you sow. If you are sowing happiness in your life then you will reap happiness as well.

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There are 3 basic element to change your life, you need to ask, believe and receive the new life, you also need to live your new life, just don’t imagine it but really believe and feel that your life has changed, you should set specific goals, create plans, but the most important is to always stay positive and be grateful for the things you have. This science proves beyond any doubt that what the success scientists of the 20th century were teaching us is absolutely true. These experts coach and educate those who want to become a success in life and those who want to become a success in business.

When you create your life’s new plan remember it is a journey and you need to act like you are living this journey using your thoughts and imagination, and see the vision as if you are there in this new life. To stop the negativity you need to think of something positive quickly, think of a pet, listen to music, start thinking of the opposite of the negative thought.

When planning a personal development plan you need to alter your life style and career path. Defining a personal development plan would mean altering the career path life cycle. If you develop a personal plan and believe in it, and practice this and see yourself in this new plan it will be only a matter of time before in comes in reality. will be only a matter a time. A good plan will also act as a performance assessment tool and a blueprint of all your day-to-day operations.

The personal development plan will only work if you truly are motivated and believe in this new life. Without the unpredictable variable such as luck, coincidence and the like, to rely on an emotional impulse such as motivation to drive us forward is like waiting for food to appear in your cupboards without going to the store to buy it. And the most convenient source of motivation comes from these books and seminars.

The problem is 99 percent of success psychology can’t provide the guarantee that 95 percent of the population needs in order to be convinced it works. These experts coach and educate those who want to become a success in life and those who want to become a success in business.

Everybody has one or another personal aspect to improve and better and hence a personal development coaching business could be a good idea as not only will you be making money, you will be helping so many individuals develop and improve their skills.

There are lots of self declared gurus on the internet as well as in the book stores who want you to follow such rigid routines and they are not actually interested in helping you but want you to continue following them so that you become dependent on them and thus, be able to use you as a predictable source of income. Oh sure, I liked to believe that I was in control of myself, but why then was I not able to motivate myself if I did indeed have so much control. The speaker is able to tap into your emotions.

You get so caught up in "what if" that you end up not doing anything. Furthermore, they have the nerve to complain and cry about it when they are doing nothing to try to better their situation.

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What does “LIFE” means to you? Having a purpose or getting the fullest out of everything?

A lot of people that I know yearn to have a simple life. Yet, I have a question for them, "How simple can a life be?" I don't really know the answer. When you are young, we kept thinking that once we finish our school and go to work, life will get easier or once we settle this matter, things will get better. However, people start to have a family and buy a house. When the house is pay off, they buy a bigger one! It's not just the world that complicates our lives, we do. As you see, we are constantly challenged.

Besides that, it will depend on the definition of “simple” to you. My concept is that if you expect something or have an expectation in your life, such as “I would love to have X, Y and Z,” life becomes complicated when we strives for the wants or desires. Unless you really don’t want anything in life, then I guess your life is really pretty simple. Also, Is NOT about having 'X' that allows you to be able to open the door of Happiness. For instance, if I have a car, then I will be happy. (Not true).

So, we will continue to meet new challenges but we must learn to be able to handle them well. Experience will aid us in our fight. Also, we must adopt a positive attitude in handling things. So face life and not fight it! When we fight life, life always wins and we would not be very happy when we lose. In addition, we might suffer damages from the fight.

Thus, I urge we all to face the reality but do not let life overtake us too. We need to remember we are the mastermind of our own destiny and we will control our future. We can choose to be HAPPY!

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Happiness is different things to different people but there are common threads that run through the achievement of happiness for most people. These threads can be broken down into five ingredients. If you have all five of these you will be happy

1. Gratitude

Happy people are grateful and appreciative of what they have, whatever that may be. They always find something good and positive in their circumstances. This attitude of gratitude is the foundation stone on which happiness is built.

By way of contrast unhappy people are not grateful or appreciative of anything in their world. They are constantly focused on the fact that there is something that they don't have. They live in lack and as a result their spirit is lacking. Nothing ever makes them truly happy.

2. Passion

Happy people are passionate people. It could be a passion for knowledge. It could be a passion for success. It could be a passion for helping others. It could be any passion at all, as long as it truly inspires the person to become more than they are now.

The unhappy person is devoid of passion. They are complacent or apathetic. They have no inspiration in their life, nothing to urge them to evolve and grow into a more developed person. As a result they tend to go around in circles; each year is similar to the year before. They are in a spiritual rut.

3. Challenge

Happy people have a challenge that they are pursuing. It could be a purely spiritual challenge such as finding enlightenment or it could be a commercial challenge such as building a successful business. It could be a sporting challenge such a winning a medal in the Olympics or it could be a career challenge.

The important ingredients of the challenge are that it is in the area of the person's passion and that it is big enough to be inspiring but not so big as to be overwhelming.

The unhappy person avoids challenges. They are waiting for someone or something to give them happiness. They believe that happiness is outside of them and that any form of challenge is work to be avoided.

4. Faith

Happy people have faith that they will achieve the destination that their challenge requires. They have faith that they have the mental and spiritual strength to take on their challenge and to grow in whatever way they need to grow in order to succeed.

They have faith that every experience has its purpose and that something positive can be gained from it, even if the experience is a bad experience or a setback.

Unhappy people are lacking in faith. On the surface they are seeking happiness but they don't really believe that they will ever find it, and they are right. You can't find happiness if you don't have faith.

5. Journey

Happy people are on a journey to their challenging destination. They have a purpose for getting up each day. They have a purpose for the things they do each day. They are doing the things required to follow their passion and they take joy from that fact.

Unhappy people are stagnant. They are not on any journey to anywhere. They are milling around, marking time. They are waiting for the world to give them happiness and they will have to wait forever because happiness requires you to take action, to grow, and to move forward in life.

Happy people have all five ingredients; gratitude, passion, challenge, faith and journey. They may be Buddhist monks on the road to enlightenment following a path of poverty. They may be billionaire business owners following a path of commercial empire building. They may be musicians dedicating their life to mastery their instrument. They could be following any of an infinite number of paths but they all have the five ingredients of happiness.

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What are the two main motivators in life? The main motivators are pleasure and pain. Pain may sometimes be the only reason why people change. For example getting flunking grades may make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to find a better source of income. Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments.

It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

Growth is a process; thus to grow is a day-to-day endeavor. We win some, we lose some, but the important thing is that we learn, and from this knowledge, further growth is made possible.

So what is it that makes us do stuff? What is the reason behind being alive? One word: Happiness! To be happy is what drives us, it is the reason we do things. So find out what will make you happy, and then just do it.

The first thing you must do is discover what it is you want to be, what it is you want to do. If need be, set a short term goal of being something until you discover what you want to do. For example you just can not think of anything that you want to be or do. This is because your dreams have been crushed so many times that they just won’t work for you any more. So pick something, anything to get started.

Let’s say you choose to be security guard, maybe you never thought of it before, but you can’t think of anything else. So you find out what you need to do to be a security guard. Then take the steps necessary to become one, like putting in applications, etc.

After a while you will become a security guard, then your dream machine will reawaken and you can contemplate your future while getting paid for doing something. Once you discover what you truly want to be, you can take steps from there to do it and get to where you truly want to be.

Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said; “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people to get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

Believe in your self, and in what you can do. Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

Don’t give in and don’t give up. Thomas Edison failed more than a few times before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Learn from mistakes; build on them as you now know what works and what does not.

Make motivation your steering wheel. Why do you get up in the morning? What is it that gives you the desire to do something? Find that something and keep it in font of you, this will help you get things done. Getting things done will in turn; make your life better.

Enjoy your life: Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t loose sight of them.

Give more than what is enough. Where does motivation and self-improvement take place? At work; at home; at school; wherever you go, there you are, and that is where your motivation takes place. When you exert extra effort in doing things, you find the results are measurably improved, and this causes happiness.

Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.

Just be yourself: One of the keys to success is to be you. Remember you are the only person wearing your skin, so make it count. A giant clue here: The key to failure is to try to please everyone else.

Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, becoming better, easier and less stressful.

Learn to love your self. You are all you have, if you do not love yourself, you will never know when someone loves you.

Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways; how they want things to be, and how they should be.

Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn our skills, and how can we recover from our mistakes. Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate; are you going to be a quitter, or a winner?

Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started, before others get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

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So many people are complaining about the lack of love in their life. They act as if some stranger decided one day to take away the love out of their lives. They hold on to lovers already gone since eternity, or they dream about a partner coming into their life to give them everything they are not able to give themselves. They balance between hope and desperation. They look for love outside themselves and believe one day a charming prince on a white horse will knock at the door and take them away to live for ever happy in a castle for away from reality.

Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison.

Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?

The bad news is this will not happen.

The good news is YOU can do a lot yourself to feel loved.

Let me explain.

Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.

Picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hotdog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.

Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, groundfloor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.

So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love?

First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now?

Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low.
So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.

What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!

So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.
So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.

Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.

Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!

Move yourself up.

If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!

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Do you want to increase your happiness set point and avoid the hedonic treadmill? Happiness is subjective. It can be defined as your personal opinion as to how pleasurable, satisfying or gratifying your life is.

Positive Psychology (founded by Martin Seligman, Ph.D. at the University of Pennsylvania) has been actively pursuing research to discover more about the state of happiness for over a decade. Several things have been discovered about the pursuit of happiness:

• It is more global than ever before.

• It is not viewed as futile.

Recent research indicates that when you are happy, you tend to:

• Be more social and creative.

• Earn more money (although once basic needs are met, the actual level of income is not associated with happiness).

• Be happily married.

• Be more resilient.

• Have a stronger immune system and longer life.

Perhaps, because we know more about the benefits of happiness than ever before, it seems it is important to learn how to be happier.

In the past, researchers believed your level of happiness was 50-80% inherited. According to this view, you have a set point or range for happiness similar to weight. After a happy or sad experience, you will return to your set point of happiness. For instance, if you win the lottery or get the promotion you wanted, about 1 year later, you will be as happy as you were before your good fortune.

Another belief that supports the set point theory is what is called the "hedonic treadmill." It views both negative and positive events as only temporarily decreasing or increasing your level of happiness. It believes that you will adjust to the new situations over time. This holds true if you get a new house, job, car, or become disabled.

It is also believed that happiness may be somewhat dependent on your personality preference, i.e. introversion/extraversion. Some definitions of happiness are highly associated with socializing and what is typically thought of as more extraverted behavior.

Sonya Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., has been doing research on happiness over the last eighteen years at the University of California, Riverside. Her latest work is more optimistic about being able to increase levels of happiness. She has discovered three factors that determine happiness:

1. Genetic – set point is stable over time (50%).

2. Life circumstances or situations you find yourself in at the time (10%).

3. Choices we make after basic needs are met (40%).

This indicates that the choices you make daily will have a lot to do with how happy you will be. It also makes you more responsible for your own happiness.

It is known that exceptionally happy people think of themselves, their peers, and life events in ways that seem to maintain their happiness. They react to life circumstances in adaptive ways and more optimistically.

In contrast, unhappy people think of their situation in ways that tend to reinforce unhappiness. They believe a situation cannot change and tend to generalize their pessimism to other areas of their life.

Specific things that are known to increase levels of happiness and show promise of moving your set point higher over time are:

• Being aware of your blessings and acknowledging what you are grateful for at least several times a week.

• Savoring good things that happen.

• Avoiding comparing yourself to your peers and obsessing on negative outcomes.

• Practicing small acts of kindness to others.

• Having self-awareness and self-management to allow time for meditation, yoga and smiling at others.

• Viewing negative things as temporary and specific rather than permanent and pervasive.

Aristotle said "happiness depends on ourselves." New research indicates that with commitment and effort, you can influence 40% of your happiness. It is necessary to take time to make choices that will enhance your level of happiness starting today. The choice is up to you.

By: Maurine Patten

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There are two facts that if you accept them you can achieve happiness.

In fact anyone can be happy – Happiness is a choice - you are not born happy, just as you are not born sad.

You have to decide which you want to be and accepting thee two facts below will help you.

1. Accept What You Have.

You may look at someone and want to be as good looking as them, or as rich as them but fact is you may not be and will never be.

Life is not fair as we all know and in our lives we all encounter situations where we feel we are hard done by.

The fact is you can’t do anything about it.

You need to accept what you have and make the best of it.

It maybe a cliché but there is always someone worse off than you.

When you think you’re hard done by, think of the millions of people around the world who have a far worse life than you, if you read a paper on any day you will find them.

From children born with aids into extreme poverty, to people who have illnesses that make us wonder how they cope at all.

A good example of a person accepting their lot was the actor Christopher Reeve.

He had it all -wealth, fame, looks and a loving family but suffered horrific injuries in a horse riding accident that, left him paralyzed from the waist down.

Dip he get depressed?

Did he simply sit back and say life’s not fair?

No he didn’t - he got on with life, set himself targets and set out to prove that he could walk again and inspire others with his efforts.

He never achieved his aim, but found a new purpose in life by helping others and trying to achieve his aim and felt gratitude for the love of his family and others around him.

So when you feel a bit depressed and think life’s not fair think of Christopher Reeve and the countless millions of people around the world that remain happy and are in a far worse position than you.

2. Do things to make you happy

There are certain things we can all do, with a bit of motivation to make us happy.

While you have to accept certain things in life others are within your reach and can make you happier.

Get motivated and think what can I achieve?

This is different to what you may want to achieve, so be realistic.

The fact is everyone can do things to make themselves happy if their motivated.

They may be simple things like, changing your job, taking up a sport, or just simply being good to people around you.

You may find that a simple change such as seeing good in other people and being nice to others makes a dramatic difference to your life.

By being nice to others, you will find they are nice to you and this can open up all sorts of opportunities to make your life better.

In fact loving and being loved, is perhaps one of the simplest ways to achieve happiness.

Being happy is simple:

Accept what you have and make the best of it – achieving happiness really is that simple.

By: Sacha Tarkovsky

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